When I left St. Paul for Boise, ID on April 23rd, I didn’t have much. A few changes of clothing, a raincoat, a bag of trail mix, $35.00, a toothbrush; had it not been for the kindness of those I met, my pack wouldn’t have contained anywhere near the essential gear for a 30-day trip. I had some contraband with me as well—an item so vital to me I couldn’t possibly leave it behind—my iPod.
In the days preceding our departure, Matt (my fellow 1st year) and I had several conferences with our formators about the looming experiment. Grouped with tons of other tidbits of wise and practical advice, we were encouraged not to bring anything on our trip that would draw attention to us as someone who lived beyond the means of those we met along the way: things like our credit cards, gaudy name-brand clothing, bits of fancy technology, and so on. I thought it likely that I would spend a few nights sleeping in homeless shelters and on the streets, and as such, an iPod didn’t seem wise. Still, I couldn’t let go of the idea that I would go a month without my library of delicious mix of pop punk, singer-songwriter groove, country, hip-hop, and of course, $1.29 top 40 iTunes purchases (my current favorite is “Call Me Maybe,” which everyone at the novitiate loves). So, against my better judgment and the wishes of my directors, I tucked it away for use on my trip.
It was a saving grace for me—on long walks in the middle of the night as I arrived in new cities, it provided a soundtrack to match my feelings of anxiousness. When I stayed in a place without fans (which I sleep with every night possible), it blocked out the perpetual ringing in my ears that so annoyingly keeps me awake. More importantly, it provided a chance to share a passion of mine with those I met, and it even became a tool in ministry for me, never more so than on the Greyhound bus. Three interactions come to mind.
On my way out to Boise, I stopped for a 2-hour layover in Omaha. After a wonderful meal with some close friends, I re-boarded the Greyhound bus for a long leg to Denver and, ultimately, a transfer on to Salt Lake City and Boise. As with any Greyhound, the folks boarding with me were a true cast of characters. None on this bus matched the uniqueness and energy of Rosie, who happened to sit right in front of me. She was, without being to direct, on something; what it was, I can’t be sure. As a result of her activity prior to boarding, she came onto the bus in a tizzy, looking wide-eyed at people as she strolled down the aisle, laughing uncontrollably, cussing a ton, calling people names, making fun of their appearance, and generally acting unruly. As far as I can tell, she had nothing with her when she boarded. The first thing she did when she sat down was pop up, turn to face me, and say, “You look like a high school teacher, man—with your bald head and glasses and s#@$…” Then, she sat back down and just kept talking, to no one in particular, with no concern for what was coming out.
Every bus ride begins with a few announcements from the driver, including reminders that no drugs or alcohol are to be used for the duration of the ride. Also, any unruliness or foul language will result in a warning and, if the issue persists, removal from the bus. Before Lincoln, Rosie had her warning. She didn’t seem fazed by it, but indicated to me in our conversation (which was out of control) that she was really desperate to get to Wyoming. “Well, Rosie,” I said, “you better lock it up, or you won’t make it 60 miles from Omaha. That wouldn’t really work out for you, huh?
“No way—I can’t get kicked off this bus, Teach.” She began calling me “Teach,” per her first remark to me.
“Well, do you like music, Rosie?” At that question, her face lit up. She explained that she loved music, but that her MP3 player had been stolen. I told her that if she wanted, she could sit next to me and use mine for a bit. In less than three seconds, she was at my side. I asked her what kind of music she liked, and her response was “Notorious BIG.” What luck! I happen to have nearly everything Biggie Smalls recorded (I don’t know all of it, but I have it for some reason). Once she had my ear buds in place, Big Poppa thumping, she was a changed person. Her demeanor slowed down, she stopped shouting and swearing as she spoke; she went into a bit of a trance, moving slightly as the jams and the bus rolled through. By the time we hit Kearney, she was coming down and falling asleep. Eventually, I had my iPod back, because Rosie had put her head on my shoulder, sleeping heavily, and there she stayed until we made it to Denver. When we arrived, my little sister and her husband had come to have breakfast with me, and I said goodbye to another bus friend, a guy named Josh who was on his way to start a new life. Rosie had slipped away unnoticed, and I never saw her again.
After leaving Boise, I went to Portland, then to Tacoma, Seattle, Spokane, Missoula, and eventually, to Joplin, MO. When I boarded the Greyhound in Missoula to get to Joplin, I rode with a foursome of women heading home to Ft. Worth from a trip to Coeur d’Alene, Idaho. We were all en route to Kansas City. There was Michelle, 21, mother of Sarah, 4, and daughter of Janet, 54. Also, there was Becca, 3, cousin of Sarah, niece of Michelle, and granddaughter of Janet. Sarah and Becca, just little girls, were barefoot on the bus. Sarah and Michelle sat in front of me, and as with most children, Sarah was intensely curious about the man sitting behind her. She had a temporary butterfly tattoo on her arm, so that became the starter for our conversation, and before too long, Becca took interest as well, so she crossed the aisle and sat down next to me. Becca, it was clear, struggled with some form of physical and developmental disability (I later found out that her condition was known as Crouzon Syndrome), which made it difficult to know how to begin engaging her. She was temperamental and incredibly fidgety, leaving me constantly worried that she would fall or slip from her seat. Her grandmother Janet called her back after a few minutes, and for the next few hours, Janet exhibited some of the most loving care I’ve ever witnessed as she worked hard to keep Becca calm and comfortable. Sarah, Michelle, and I kept our polite banter going for a bit, but eventually, we settled into the lazy drone of hours ahead on the bus. My iPod was going to be a great ally on this leg of the journey.
Eventually, I could see that Janet became exhausted caring for Becca, but Becca just wouldn’t calm down. She was letting out constant whimpers and short cries that carried through the entire bus, and I knew Janet was anxious to keep Becca from disrupting the other riders. Thinking back to Rosie, and knowing that Janet needed a break, I asked Becca if she liked music. She vigorously nodded yes, and so I asked Janet if she wanted me to sit with Becca for a while. By now I had proven myself trustworthy and good with kids, so Janet handed Becca to me and I put the ear buds in place. For the next few hours as Janet slept, I played DJ Scribble for Becca, bringing her through the very depths of my music library, including Katy Perry and Carly Rae, Raffi (remember the children’s song “Baby Beluga?”), Lisa Loeb, James Taylor, Matt Nathanson, Michael Franti and Spearhead, and on and on and on. Anything that I thought might be kid friendly was played, and Becca, just like Rosie, slowed down, looked up at me constantly with a huge smile on her face, danced and bopped around next to me in her chair, and eventually, fell into my side and drifted off to sleep. After helping these women and girls carry their luggage off the bus, we parted ways, and Janet simply said, “Thanks for the break, bud—I needed it, and we’ve got a way to go.” And then, we went our separate ways, barefoot Becca leaving my life forever.
I transferred buses in KC, made it to Joplin, found a place to stay, and worked hard for nearly five days. Then, I saddled up on the Greyhound for one last 14-hour jaunt back to St. Paul and the end of my journey. The bus from Joplin transferred again in Kansas City, and re-boarding to end up in St. Paul, it was clear that the bus was going to be full. As a side note, a full Greyhound bus is the absolute worst travel experience I have ever had—worse than a delayed flight, a flat tire on a long road trip, or construction that delays a drive for hours and hours. I’d take any of that over a full Greyhound. Among the standard cast of characters were a foursome of (what I assumed were) African men (two old guys and two little boys), and again, they surrounded me. I never caught their names, but gathered that the two old men were the grandfather and great-uncle of the little boys, who couldn’t have been more than 4 years old themselves.
The older guys told me that they had literally just come to the US from the Congo, and needed to get to St. Paul. They flew to New York, then to Kansas City, and eventually, saved some money busing to St. Paul instead of taking another flight. The boys, they said, had slept for the entirety of both flights, but they themselves hadn’t slept a lick, as it was their first time traveling to the US, and they were nervous. Now, it appeared that they were ready to sleep hard, but couldn’t find a comfortable situation. After some banter with the little boys, they seemed to like me, and so I offered a solution to help. If both boys sat next to me (they would fit just fine), then a seat would free up for one of the older men to lay down a bit and get some rest. Halfway through, they could switch spots, and the other could sleep for a few hours. I would look after the boys. They agreed enthusiastically, and so, I found myself sitting in between two preschoolers from the Congo. Out came the iPod, and with one ear bud each, the boys danced and laughed the whole way home to St. Paul. I taught them how to use it, and so, I was able to sit back, read a bit, and eventually, settle into some good contemplative thought as the miles to home ticked away. They got off the bus at the MSP airport, which gave me just a few minutes to close my eyes before arriving at the St. Paul Greyhound station. After debussing, I began the slow trek back to the novitiate, my iPod battery drained to the red, big grins on my mind.
I suppose I was a little disobedient in bringing my iPod on pilgrimage, and yet, I can’t help but think that it became yet another vehicle by which I could attend to others. I wouldn’t go so far as to say that I “fixed” whatever issue arose near me on the bus by throwing my iPod into the mix, but I can say that in letting go of my own attachment to my iPod, if only for a while, I found immense joy seeing that others could benefit directly from what I had. My attachment to the iPod landed it in my bag, but in reflecting on why I couldn’t let it go, I was able to let it go. For the duration of my pilgrimage, the emptying of myself became thematic and vital to the movements of my own heart—offering a listening ear, sinking into vulnerability when emotions ran high, giving away the money I had received if another asked for it, sharing the food I had been given, agreeing to do virtually anything anyone asked me to do in the spirit of service, and offering my iPod when music was a possible solution. As a result, I am left with the imprints of hundreds of faces from my trip—Rosie, Becca, and the Congo boys included. While I’m not certain I did everything right during my month away, I gave as much as I could, and in the moment, tried to be creative in loving the world, which I so deeply desire to do. One thing is for certain—I plan on having my iPod for a little while longer. The big question now: which $1.29 top 40 song will make the next cut? And then, who can I share it with?